Surely I am not alone in this. It’s that moment(s) when you have been doing the affirmations, you have been setting your goals, you are doing everything you can and you are just not there. You feel disheartened and like giving up. I have been there but throughout it all I have understood something really important:
In order to attract the things that we want, we have to clear the resistance.
The very fact that you are noticing the discrepancy is showing you who you are. There is something within you, some patterns, conditioning, some beliefs that are contrary to the thing you are trying to attract. We call this Resistance. You can have contrary beliefs at the same time. You may believe for example, that you are a good person and worthy of good things but you may also believe that people who are rich are lazy and selfish. If you believe those things, it may be holding you back from attracting more money and then getting the good things that you believe you are worthy of. In the area of love, you may believe that you are worthy of love and to be cared for, but you may also believe (and keep attracting) people that take your love and care because you may have an underlying belief that people will only love you for what you give them, rather than who you are. The good news is you can clear the resistance and have the life you want. Here are my best tips for doing that:
1.Put the power to choose back inside of yourself
There are so many messages around us that say that we are powerless. As babies we need to trust our parents to give us what we want and desire. After this, we learn to put this trust that we once put (outside of ourselves onto our parents) onto our teachers, God, police, our partners, our boss or employer, the Government, our children… We are all guilty of this. This can lead to not trusting ourselves. The reality is, that we are creators of our life and every time we make a choice, we are creating. Once you know the power you have to make decisions and also the power you have to change and to attract the things you want, the more you trust it, the more control you will have over your life, the more you will attract and create the life you desire. More about trust here.
2. Use the discrepancy as feedback
As the examples above show, when you are not attracting the things you desire, use that as information to you that there is something within you that is blocking that. A belief. Blocks can be cleared. Beliefs can be changed. Spend some time asking yourself why to uncover your underlying beliefs. Everything you say, do and attract is feedback. What are your beliefs? Are they serving you? Perhaps you would like to change them. Support for that here.
3. Be grateful
By noticing what you do have, your brain will start getting used to noticing more things that you have and also, things that you can attract which will then give you more things to be grateful for. This is honestly the gateway to attracting what you want. If you gave someone $100 and they weren’t very appreciative, you probably will think again before doing that. However, if you gave someone $100 and they were incredibly grateful, they spent the money on something they usually couldn’t afford and told you how much that money made a difference, you would probably be more likely to give again. Be appreciative of what you receive. Change your perspective. We attract what we focus on. Which brings me to my next point.
4. Focus on what you want
Spend time daily daydreaming what it would be like to have what you want. Get really clear about this and use all your senses to get on board with feeling, thinking, smelling, touching, tasting what this would be like. Write some of this down or create a vision board. As your energy, your brain, your body, your senses start understanding what this would be like, it will start attracting things that line up with that and will begin to change into this new way of being. Your conscious mind is not bound by time. If you are imagining something, a lot of your body goes through the same experience as if you are actually experiencing it. If there’s anything that comes up during this, see step 2.
5. Take notice
When there are changes, take notice. This will also help you to see the changes and the progress you are making and change that hardwiring in your energy and provide evidence that you can create the life you choose.
If you have anything else to add, please leave a comment. I would love to hear how you are clearing your resistance and attracting the things that you choose.