So interesting that since starting this website, a few things have come up for me especially in terms of my efforts to “say less”. Firstly, this really annoying tendency I have to edit things that I want to say (this happens a lot on social media, text messages, email but also in real life conversations too) as to not offend others and often not saying what I think at all as I don’t want to upset. I call it my “will this offend filter”. This happened in a big way recently at work where I didn’t say the truth about a video we made, only for it to be published and then we were told by another professional that it could be taken the wrong way and could actually be offensive. I knew this but thought it was just me and again, didn’t want to “upset” anyone. I also have the tendency to say too much as I try to sweeten things up when I’m being truthful or I may justify the reasons why I have said what I said so that I am not misunderstood. This is all not necessarily such a bad thing. In fact, being mindful of the things we say is actually a really important and helpful life skill and a big part of what this website is about. But to me, I was spending a lot of my energy on this editing, thinking, analysing, and it was because of my shame really, my fear of what people will think of me. And mostly, a huge waste of my energy as despite trying so hard to say the right things in the right way at the right time, people seemed to be offended anyway or take things the “wrong” (or different than intended) way anyway! It can get a little exhausting!
This is not new to me. In fact, it has been a program I have been running most of my life. It’s this tendency to be preoccupied with what other people think of me. I’ve learnt not to get too upset when these patterns present themselves as it means I have another opportunity to clear these energy blocks and grow into a better version of myself. This pattern, though so comfortable and familiar has ruled my life and behaviour in many ways in the past and caused devastation in important relationships. I’m glad to be speaking from a much stronger and more whole place today and I can honestly say that I have learnt to recognise when this behaviour has taken hold earlier and do some things to shift this before it gets out of hand. What I’ve also learnt is that when there is a block in any area, it tends to show up in a lot of different ways, in many different interactions until I get the point already and clear it!! Lol.
For some help with clearing these patterns at the core, you may like to get some healing sessions with me. After doing an energy clearing on myself, I created this necklace to remind me to speak truth, exercise judgment in what I speak, do less analysing and preoccupation with what others think and to allow exchanges to come and go without getting too caught up in them before or after the fact. To remind me to trust myself.
The stone I have used is called “Lapis”. It’s a beautiful blue colour as I am focussing on opening my throat chakra, which is the chakra for communication, sound and expression. Lapis has many beautiful meanings including truth and enlightenment. It is the stone of the throat chakra but also the third eye (the third eye is our intuition, insight and is what helps us to see the patterns like the one I’m describing in this post). This stone basically connects the two: voice and third eye. In fact, as mentioned, the throat chakra is all about communication. It acts like the gateway for energy to flow through to all other chakras, so it’s pretty important. In my interactions with friends and family recently, I have noticed that I am not the only one who is struggling with communication between these two chakras. Either with seeing patterns and knowing what to speak or with speaking the truth and being confident in what is said, not double guessing or changing our mind. So I thought it would be nice to make more jewelery with these oh so powerful stones and make them available for you to purchase in my shop. It is called the “Speak Truth Necklace”. I think that’s pretty fitting. I’ll just make them to order so expect a little bit of time for me to make it before I post.
Purchase a necklace like it here.
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